One of the biggest problems I have heard guys mention is that a woman seems interested, but then the conversation dies out. There can be many reasons for this. However, the solution is to learn how to lead and direct a dynamic, interesting conversation. To develop an interaction with a woman in a romantic way, you need to capture and lead her emotions while engaging her in a challenging way. This is where it helps to have prepared stories and routines. They help get past the awkward spots and establish some basic rapport. Having an idea of what you can say also helps you relax and pay more attention to her.
1) Have some good routines that get her talking about herself
Some good routines include handwriting analysis, which is easy to do by implement product called the Grapho Deck. Other routines include tarot cards, magic tricks, and many more. Knowing one of two routines gives you something to do with the woman which involves her active participation, is emotionally engaging, and challenges her to prove herself in a way that goes beyond her physical appearance. Depending on the routine, it can take anywhere from 5 – 20 minutes. Used early in the conversation, it will introduce topics and reveal things that can provide hooks for other conversations.
2) Ask thought provoking questions
If you do not want to rely on physical props, another technique is simply to ask thought provoking questions. For example, if you ask a woman what she does for a living, and she says that she is a teacher, the conversation does not have to stop there. You can add some depth by asking a question like, “so what is it about teaching that you find most interesting / fascinating / compelling”. This will get her her thinking about and talking about deeper, more meaningful concepts. You can then continue to build rapport by actively listening and contributing your own stories.
3) Be fun, funny, and playfully sarcastic
Many people, men and women, enjoy sarcastic, humorous banter. If you have a sarcastic yet you might do this naturally. It may feel uncomfortable, or even rude, to try this with someone you just met. But you can talk to someone you have known only briefly as if you have already known them for a long time. This actually can build feelings of comfort and familiarity, and it creates an atmosphere where you are not taking her too seriously or trying to be too nice. Some men speak to attractive women with an annoying kind of awe. For these women, sarcasm will be appreciated for its authenticity.
4) Show do not tell – create vivid descriptions that evoke the senses
Finally, use your descriptive language to make an experience real and engaging. For example, if I were to describe my ideal vacation, I could say it was beautiful or I could describe the waves crashing up on the shoreline, the cool breeze cooling off my skin from the hot bright sun, and the smell of the salty air as it was blowing against my skin.
Notice how my description included things that you can see, hear and feel. For most people, one of these senses is more prevalent than the others. However if you do not want determine which sense is most important, use all of them. It will make your language much more real and vivid. Most men are not very good at using sensory language. So this is another way you can distinguish yourself in a good way.
5) Improve – be good at transitioning from one topic to another
Finally, develop your ability to freely associate and easily transition from one conversational topic to another, even if they do not seem related. This is something that you can develop in an Improvisation class or by making a conscious effect to swing from one conversation topic to another. Children and adults with Attention Deficit (notice I did not say Disorder) are often very good at this.
So there are a few tips, now go out and have some interesting conversations!