“You can only go forward by making mistakes.” Said British fashion designer and couturier, Alexander McQueen.
What a thing to say! Humans are born to make mistakes, learn from them, and then move ahead. And indeed, youth is the best period of life to make mistake as we have time to let go, energy to move on, enthusiasm to try newer things, and curiosity to experience more.
But, do we all make the same mistakes? Or, are there some mistakes (just like road bumps) that we all end up making? Though, we all like to believe that everyone’s life is different and we advocate individuality, but there are many common mistakes that all young people end up making. Perhaps, that is the way of life and this is what makes us empathic towards each other.
It makes one wonder what are these common mistakes that young people makes and Quora, the popular Q&A forum, has the answer to this. In fact, people have loads to say about this and every single comment provides some interesting insights about life and young minds.
Here are some of the insightful answers to, What Are The Most Common Life Mistakes Young People Make?
Blogger, investor, and author, James Altucher, takes a very practical approach to answer this question. According to Altucher, there are many mistakes young people make and here are two of his very interesting points among many others.
Altucher gives couple of examples, like, ‘What opinion can you possibly have? Global warming? Ok, good luck changing the world. War? Ok, good luck stopping the $200 billion defense lobbying industry from having war (sic).’ Then at the end he says, ‘Do what YOU love to do today. Surrender to the results. The more you surrender, the more results there will be.
The way you solve the world’s problems is to solve your problems. Then trust.’
Among other things Altucher has this to say, ‘Like when you’re 19 years old and you want to talk about the status of your relationship. There is no status. You’re 19. Guess what. Even if you’re 50 you don’t need to talk about it. Treat the other person nice. Then your status will be good. If you hit the person you are living with then your status won’t be good. Talking won’t do anything.
This holds for most things’.
Joao M B Pinheiro gives his opinion from male’s prospective and here is what he thinks are the common life mistakes of young people.
Another Quora member who is in his early 20s, Joseph Mutie, has also pointed out couple of mistakes.
At such a young age, health should be paramount because if you are not healthy, you won’t be able to work, study and execute your responsibilities as required.
I would combine this with the point above. Keeping fit is very important and no one needs to start spending time in hospitals from a young age.
The fact about life is some people will always be better than you and others will always be worse than you, it is okay. Accept it.
The problem about comparing yourself with your peers is, you start getting jealous, develop a low self esteem, low confidence and generally you will think your life sucks.
The other day my little cousin surprised me when our cable paid TV was cut off and she couldn’t watch Keeping up with the Kardashians and she got so mad about it. She thinks it is real, yet they act and present us with what they think we want to see. When she learned it is acted, she now has little interest in it.
Even older people do this mistake. Have seen many young and as well older people take a loan to buy a car just because their friends think they should be driving even when it is clear that owning a car will be beyond their means. This is not limited to cars but to all other secondary needs like latest gadgets, entertainment systems e.t.c
I don’t think anyone can have a complete happy life without being in good relationships with their spouses, family and friends, workmates e.t.c. I think nobody would want to invest in the wrong gf or bf if they knew they would divorce one day. It is right to date the right people.
Young people should spend most of their time developing new skills and gathering new knowledge which will help them in their career, be it professional or not.
I don’t think that this needs any explanation. Drugs and alcohol will ruin your life.
The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams as Eleanor Roosevelt once said. No one will ever come to help you achieve your dream, you have to work on it because very few people will actually believe you in your early stages.
I have seen so many young people who depend on their parents too much to the point they become a bother to the parents. If you got your parents to pay for your university fees and even bought items for your new apartment you must be lucky because others have had to do that on their own by balancing demanding part time jobs and class work.
I can’t count the number of people who I lost trust for because of their lies. Lies ruin relationships and trust. It costs nothing to say the truth and being honest.
Rahul Kunatala has this to say,
Here is another thought post by Mark VandeWettering.
Soma Mohapatra Dash, a writer and editor, writes about two categories of mistakes and here they are:
And, this writer ends up by saying, “The worst mistake is making a mistake and trying to erase it and thus hide it forever.”
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